So I (30M) met him (32M) in a sexual environment, nothing happened between us that night but we coincidentally met again the day after. We started dating a month later and I’ve always been communicative about my fantasies, I do not want a full open relationship, but I want to experience things with him.

He’s a person who’s been to orgies, has done all kind of kinky stuff, stuff that I still want to experience, he even tried to open my mind about going to a country famous for sex and to let things flow. And I did open my mind to it even tho it didn’t happen.

Now he’s in love with me and suddenly his sexual desires have changed. And I get that. He might have become demisexual or maybe it’s just him being possessive. So I as a hyper sexual guy have asked him to meet me halfway, to enjoy our sexuality together.

He literally says that that’s not what he wants in his life anymore, that if I continue to have that mentality I won’t ever be successful because I’m using that creative energy for sexual thoughts.

Do these sexual desires go away at some point? I’ve always had them and I promise you, I swear, I love this man. Wanting to have fun with others (specially with him included) just gets me going a lot, just as being in bed with him also gets me going.

Am I a bad person for possibly letting go of this man who’d do anything for me? Or do you think my desires will calm down at some point?