Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here. I’m sure this has been posted a million times, but wanted to shares my struggles:

I’m 29M queer who’s ENM and married to a cis/bi woman. I live in the DMV area and I struggle to find additional partners. I’m into cis women, trans women, NB, and very feminine men. The only app I am using now is feeld and I go through periods of no matches, no replies, and unenthusiastic responses (which sadly seems to be the norm) I’m looking for a long term FWB. I would say I’m decently attractive, in great shape, bubbly, extroverted, caring, respectful, and kind. I am a very genuine person who puts my all into any type of relationship I make. I’m the kind of person to give you the shirt off my back if you need it, but also don’t want to walked all over either.

I’ve noticed the DMV area is very “go, go, go” and this area breeds ignorance, selfishness, and isolation. Most people I know or observe don’t want to get to know you and keep to themselves. I’m back in school full times and there are alot of attractive people, but everyone tends to keep to themselves and are very Introverted. While I have an expressive personality and have no problems with being venerable In front of others, I don’t want to be judged or isolated from an entire cohort just because I am ENM. I’ve tried Fetlife munches, but the population in my area tend to be 20-30 years older than myself. Not a problem at all but it’s just not what I’m Into.

So how do I find partners who are similar and age, personality, and desires? Any advice would help.