I've been non-mono for a long time, but am finding myself feeling extremely jealous lately I think because my partner is in a D/s relationship. They're a submissive and their other partner is a Dom.

I don't usually get jealous with them having sex with someone else, or even dating. They've had D/s partners before and I felt very jealous, but I chalked it up to other issues at the time. But with this one there is nothing else to pin it on - it's because of the D/s component that I'm feeling a way.

The weird part is that I'm not into doing BDSM myself, so it's not like fomo that I am missing out on this thing with my partne, because it's not even something we do or want to do together. Logically, I want them to get to have that and enjoy and feel compersion around it, but it makes me feel extremely jealous in a way I'm not used to.

That sounds quite dramatic, and I'm fine, but just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and if there's any tips or tricks for thinking about it / self soothing.