Hey!

So me (36f) and husband have recently opened things up a bit. We've been to a swingers club and now I have started seeing a lovely woman (also in a long term relationship with a man and is seeing other people too).

We've only met twice so far, but it's been great and we seem to have some sort of connection. We had sex the second time we met, and then afterwards spent like 2 hours just cuddling and kissing and chatting on her sofa. I never expected that to happen, it just did. I didn't wanna leave and she didn't seem to want me to, so we just kind of stayed there until we were both on the verge of falling asleep lol.

I feel like I could very easily fall for her. I'm trying to think about it logically and if that is actually a problem. So, I guess more to get it out of my system and work through it in my head -

1. It changes how things are between me and husband. This is the biggest risk, but I do firmly believe you can have feelings for more than one person. I just need to make sure I'm showing him as much love and affection.

2. She doesn't feel the same way. That's ok, I don't expect her to, in fact it might be easier if she didn't lol. She's said she's never developed feelings for anyone she's been seeing (other than her actual partner obviously) so I won't take it personally lol.

3. I get jealous of her being with other people. I'm just gonna have to acknowledge that feeling and then let it go. I have no wish to stop her doing what or who she likes.

So I think I'm left with - 'but I can't stop thinking about her and it's driving me mad'!! Not sure what to do about that one apart from hope my brain calms down a bit!

Anyone with any experience of this?!