36F married ENM here.

Met a 34m on Feeld 5 mos ago. Advertised as single and solo poly. Have seen him thrice due to limited availability.

His availability is limited due to a) weird work hours, and b) an inability to host.

He said he couldn’t host bc he lived with his grandfather as his full time caretaker.

Often I’d joke that he had a secret family and wife. He took my jokes in jest.

Last night I pressed him at first half jokingly but then not so jokingly on his last name: he lied, giving me a different name than he had previously, and then he was weirdly evasive.

Today I get to googling, and by reverse phone number I find free public info that says marital status: married.

I’m mortified. I’m ENM. I don’t fuck cheaters.

Do I say something?