My husband and I (41M 40F) have this rule that we don't have sex with our friends. I was the one to set that rule, husband agreed, but would prefer not having it. Now that we are open for a while I am considering removing that rule : I still don't want to fuck people in my friend group for many many reasons but I trust my husband to make the right decisions regarding who he wants to have sex with, and he does not seem right to me to tell him who he can and can not see.

However... After giving it some thought, I think that if my husband starts fucking one of our friends I will feel super grossed out, almost like if he had sex with someone on my family and I fear I will not be attracted to him anymore. We generally agree to not disclose who we are seeing, but between logistics and life in a medium city where all the people within the same age group /similar interests all hang out at the same spots, we usually have at least a vague idea of who it is.

It actually happened when I learned that one of my fwb was also seeing a friend of mine. I was not jealous or mad or anything, but I instantly lost all my attraction to him.

Do you have similar experiences ? What do you think about sex with friends ?