Update to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/2TMGBjfaJ3

I bit the bullet and spent two days composing a message, which I sent today. I explained I was non-monogamous, that I had had a crush on him for years, and that while I knew he might not be in a place right now to be up for female company, if he ever decided he might be interested, he should call me.

He responded that he was absolutely interested! But thought he should call me to have an honest conversation about his mental state before we pursue anything. Which honestly, I appreciated the self-reflection and awareness. I responded that I understood and that I’d also have relevant info about my ENM practice. We have a phone date for this weekend. 💕

Thank you everyone for your advice!