so my husband and i are both trans men, been together for 4 years almost, and a few months ago decided we wanted to outsource some 🍆 because well ya know. we were doing it together at first but then decided we should try separately bc we're looking for different types of people for that. in searching for that he mentioned that outside of sex/a FWB with someone else he didn't care if i flirted with someone else or did whatever tbh. so we then had a loose conversation about the idea of polyamory but didn't talk about it much. so then here i am texting to this person pretty much just in a sexual way but they were cool so we were talking a good bit. my husband then shared with me last night he was starting to feel insecure that i might leave him for someone else because of what we were doing. so we spent about 2 hours talking about the idea of us being in a polyamorous relationship and he said the idea of it sounds fine and cool but then he gets worried about me making connections with other people and me leaving him. and not that i would ever dream of that but nothing i've said is really easing his worries and he feels bad for preventing me from doing what im interested in whereas i initially thought it was something we were both interested in. but of course now that it feels like on the only one interested in the idea of having a more open relationship like that im just not exactly sure what to do. i'm not looking for a solution just some advice :))