(bf: bi - actively engaging in sex outside relationship / gf: bi curious - currently focused on making relationship work)
boyfriend & i having issues with trust, reassurance & infidelity. i, with anxious attachment blah blah, ended it 2 nights ago (took it back 100000 times, the 1st being 10 mins after i said it.) last night, i suggested we spend the weekend reconnecting & try to make it work. he said yes, then changed his mind & went for a “walk” with a backpack full of clothes. ignored me until 7:30am when he asked me to call him. it is now 1:45pm & he is still in another city, 1.5 hours away, where he expects me to believe he spent the night alone.
what am i entitled to here? the bare minimum i feel being an apology. but i’m talking proof of travel, booking times (to show it wasn’t premeditated), grindr messages, texts? i don’t want to be toxic, but there have been lies in the past.
i feel it’s important to mention that we have had frequent fights over the past few weeks due to him putting others above me (ignoring me to use grindr, leaving me/asking me to leave to meet people/have them over & this week leaving at 3am to have sex with 3 people while i was asleep, coming home at 3pm & telling me “i’m done with that now”) My reactions to this have become increasingly erratic due to his lack of remorse or accountability and the fact that after cheating he never stopped to rebuild the relationship
any advice appreciated
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