Ok, so background. I met my bf this year under the context of monogamy. I wasn’t looking to be ENM or open at all. We dated for a while, I could tell he was dating others, and so I started dating someone else as well as him- pretty standard modern dating scenario. I expected it to fizzle or take off with one. Or ofc not work the either. My now-bf then discloses about 2 months in that he’s dating someone else. I’m hurt/pissed.. even though I’ve been doing the same thing. But I move past it for a few reasons. I’ve tried open relationships before (unsuccessfully), I’ve cheated on multiple partners, & my bf and I are in alignment with life goals. That being said, I still feel a bit duped into this. And I am n out handling the jealousy well. I don’t know if this is right for me. My main consideration right now is that the others we are dating, while they know there’s not exclusivity, have no idea that he and I are now in a relationship. In my opinion, if we really want to make this work- we will need to break things of with those we’re currently dating and start fresh in an open relationship with extremely clear boundaries. But what are those boundaries/ guidelines? I feel lost and he’s not doing a great job of framing it since this is his first go around too. Any advice is welcome at this point. I am admittedly conflicted on many levels.