I had to end a 6yr relationship because I figured that I'd rather be single than deal with the disrespect and false promises. I've had two long-term relationships and both of them became non-monogamous. I had no problem dealing with the first one. I felt secured in what we had and maybe because he's a guy and I'm more attracted to women. Also because he really made me feel loved and we lived together.

The second one was with a closeted woman. It started off as just flirting and NSA type of encounters but the idea of building another relationship came up during our 5th year together and I didn't handle it well. I was never introduced to her family and we only see each other once or twice a week. I felt like our connection was being threatened everytime she's having sex or going on a date with someone.

I met an ENM couple, we're not officially dating yet but I didn't feel any jealousy at all. I feel happy for both of them.

I'm also reconsidering monogamy but I know at some point I will crave the novelty and the idea of getting to know another person. Being single is also not bad.