Me and my partner agreed to be poly when we first started and I didn’t think much of it bc I’d done casual open relationships and been the third in other relationships. But I’m realizing I can’t handle emotional poly, my partner had someone they were going on dates with but I didn’t think much of it bc they call literally every hang out with friends a date. Turns out they have romantic feelings for this person and I’m not taking it well. I’ve been eaten up by jealousy and I’ve been doing a bad job at hiding it so it lead to a fight recently. I really do love them but I’m really struggling with jealousy and feeling like I’m not enough since they’re into someone else. The more I think about it and talk with friends I think I might just be mono when it comes to a strong emotional connection. We talked about putting a pause on the open relationship while I figure my feelings out but they said they’d have to think about it then last minute today they told me they were hanging out with the guy so I’m wondering if I should just cut my losses and break up. I don’t want to, so if there’s any advice on how to make a poly/mono relationship work I’d love that. From all our conversations I thought that poly was my only option and frankly felt pressured into it but during our recent fight they said that I always had the option to ask to close it but that was never communicated to me, all that was communicated was them wanting to know how far they could go with their other partner and when I expressed discomfort I was told I was being unfair (idk how since I haven’t been with anyone since we started dating). The whole situation has made me completely reconsider being poly and I think I might be mono. So is there any hope or should I just cut my losses for the both of us?