Hello! And apologies for the lengthy post. Anyway, my wife of ten years and I have been curious about the lifestyle for a while. During our marriage we have had frequent open conversations about sexual desires and fantasies. We finally decided we were ready to do something IRL.

After some searching we found a chill couple, new to the lifestyle as well. We met up for drinks, could tell there was chemistry and got a hotel together a week or so later.

During our encounter we mostly played with our own partners in the same room. Though the ladies briefly switched spots to give their non-hubby a handjob. There was no oral, or penetration between anyone that wasn’t married to each other.

Anyway, encounter ends. We talk a bit with the couple, they had fun, we had fun. Definitely and erotic amazing experience.

In the following couple days there’s been an…….awkwardness…..between me and my wifey. We’ve continued after care talks and we just can’t quite pinpoint it, but something feels off/awkward.

To be clear this isn’t causing us any relationship problems and hasn’t led to any arguments or fighting. We have both told one other we thought it was fun, the other couple was fun and we enjoyed ourselves. She’s said she wants to try it again, as do I.

All this to ask. Is this kind of low level awkwardness normal and is it something I should be worried about/address going forward either between us or with a relationship counselor. Is it something we can expect after every encounter or potentially new encounter that involves more full swaps? Or does the awkwardness kind of die down as we transition from our monogamous to non monogamous lifestyle?

Thanks in advance all!