I often experience the desire to be romantic with my close friends. Not necessarily sexual, just affectionate. My husband is comfortable with it and knows it’s just part of who I am, but I still get insecure about it because it’s hard for me to bring it up with the friends I’d want to talk about it with. I fear making them uncomfortable or coming across weird for it. I guess it kind of boils down to a fear of rejection. Does anyone have any advice by chance?
I'm kind of in the same situation, I enjoy romance, flirting, foreplay, making out more than just physical sex. Just plain intimacy is enough for me but I find it difficult to find partners because most are okay with the physical aspect and don't see it as a problem, but as soon as you get it to the romantic parts it's kind of gray. Emotional cheating seems to be something they're not okay with and I understand, I find a lot of couples don't like them kissing other people or having those intimate moments with other people other than their main partner. My SO prefers to keep that lovey dovey vomit inducing cringe fest to myself LOL. And maybe different for a woman as you can get away with you now cuddling other women, sharing your feelings, just getting close in general as a male unfortunately has a stigma to get past. I think it's fully possible for sure, I just haven't found the right person and I think it takes a lot more vetting to find the right person that is more demisexual or even asexual in that sense that isn't just in it for sexual gratification.
My primary is introverted and loves alone time and hates lovey dovey words. Of affirmation kind of things. It's a challenge finding a 2nd that is accommodating to my lifestyle and has no boundaries revolving around intimacy. This was more in the ballpark or trying to date other couples.
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Myself I've been thinking of stretching out and finding partners in the trans community or gay community to kind of help fulfill that whole. But masculinity is just not my favorite cup of tea. Same with orgasms I am a pleasure person so I do enjoy giving pleasure to others. But I'm scared to pull the trigger because you know me and my so looking for another partner being trans or a male we're going to get a lot of people wanting it.