My girlfriend and I have different sex drives. While we are both active, I can go a few days without if I am overwhelmed and it was straining our relationship. We are both ego driven people, but we opened our relationship in late 2023 to save our relationship. I struggled IMMENSELY, as she mainly sleeps with men and it caused me some insecurity. She also was the only one sleeping with other ppl, as she didn’t think she could handle me sleeping with other ppl. I gave it time and was able to adjust. After a while we closed to see if we could work monogamous, but that only lasted for a month as she couldn’t. I agreed to reopen as long as I could also open too, so we did. Fast forward, we now live together. I requested all activities be done out of the house as mine are so we could have a safe space together, but after a while she became upset and said that makes it harder. I gave in, but now I feel like we have no space solely for us and it’s bothering me. I feel I have little say in creating boundaries that give me extra comfort.

Are there any suggestions for letting go of control and not functioning through my ego? I love and like her dearly and I don’t want to leave as I think we work excellent together. Any advice in general would help too.