So, me (29m) and my loving partner of 5 years (29f) recently talked about opening up the relationship. The thought behind this was that our levels of interest in sex have begun to veer off in different directions, leading us both to feel dissatisfied in different ways. Other than that, our relationship is fab, we’re buying a house together, live independent, but shared, lives with our own interests and own friends, as well as strong shared friendships too. We see an open relationship as a way to keep this stuff strong, while allowing ourselves to find those elements which are slightly at odds with one another elsewhere, or at least that’s my take on it. Since we talked about it in one of our relationship check ins we’re doing while going through house purchase, I’ve been doing lots of reading, podcasts etc on the whole shebang. Even joined this lovely community to understand the challenges and habits from successful and unsuccessful openings. But she, despite being the one who proposed it, hasn’t done any of this, and I can’t find the words to pick up the conversation about it again. I’ve shared links with her to things I’ve read which have made me think, but up until this point, I don’t think she’s read any, and just doesn’t seem to think much about it. Don’t really know what to do, anyone been in a similar situation at the start and got any tips?

Tl;dr great relationship, but open relationship proposed by gf to fill the gaps, but I seem to be doing more work into what this looks like than her, how do I bring her along on the journey?!