hi. I have received an ultimatum from my husband. He wants me to stop my Dom/fwb situation. This is the first person I have seen by myself since we agreed to ENM. I’m having a really hard time. He thinks I have broken some boundaries that he set up. I don’t agree that I broke boundaries- I think that we just have a fundamental misunderstanding of each other’s wants/needs. he says that if I balk at the ultimatum then I am betraying him as my primary partner- I should want to be with him over everything else and not even entertain the idea of not accepting the ultimatum. But, I think my problem is that he gave me this ultimatum in the first place. I don’t want to be in a relationship where I can just be handed an ultimatum and then be forced to uphold it, even if it’s not what I believe.

Anyway, advice or anything is super appreciated. I really feel trapped.