Hi, new profile here because I can't post with my main one. To summarize, my wife (22F) and I (25M) recently started to open our couple and we were since a lot of days in the process of finding someone for each other to have respectively our first experiences.

While on my side I don't have a lot on success on the famous dating apps, my wife got a lot of matches and talks. There was one profile that caught her attention and she started to talk more intensively with this man during some days.

I have to precise that my wife has a kink for older man so the guy was like the double of her age, in his 40's. They decided to meet yesterday night and she was obviously really nervous / stressed because it was a first in our couple. On my side I was pretty calm and kinda excited to think that someone else will have the pleasure to have sex with her.

When she came back after a date of like 3 hours, she was looking shocked. She told me that once she arrived with the guy in the hotel bedroom, he started to kissing her really aggressively and putting his tongue everywhere on her face. Something that she didn't expect of course. She explained to me that he was having like a crazy / obsessed facial expression that scared her at the moment. Surprisingly he accepted that she didn't want to have sex with him but he continued to kiss her, even choked her (without asking her consent) and bit her lip so hard that she came back with pain. She also felt forced to pull up her top so he could suck her nipples. Overall, she said to me that she never expected to see such an intense / aggressive behavior and that she was traumatized from what happened.

I immediately thought that she got somehow assaulted because I know that the things that she mentioned to me didn't sound well. She also said that she was feeling disgusting and disgusted by what happened.

Now she's emitting doubts to continue to open our relationship and I completely understand her. I would like to know if other couples here had a same experience and how they dealt with it.