I've been dating my boyfriend since December (2023) and I'm his first open relationship. He knew before we developed feelings for each other that I was only looking to be in an open relationship and seemed receptive to the idea.

1 week into being a relationship, I shared a story about a time I had sex with a friend and he got really annoyed and mad and said "maybe I don't want to be open." I told him that he should have said that before I asked him out, rather than waiting until we're a couple and springing it on me. Later that night he apologized and said he doesn't feel like he has a say in the relationship and he would feel better if kissing was only for me and him and I accepted the terms to resolve conflict. He was right, because since then he hasn't been upset about us being open.

We're 8 months into our relationship now and I have never stopped wishing this rule would change. I regret agreeing to it, especially because we rarely make out with his libido being low for months (we only make out if I initiate it).

Am I being unfair? He compromised by willing to try being open, so does that mean I should be happy and accept his terms of being open? We both look forward to seeing each other every weekend and we share affection through cuddling a lot. I don't know if I needs to get over it or he does. He thinks I'm being unfair, I think he's being unfair.