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My girlfriend lives abroad for the time being and we've agreed to an open relationship while apart. Only main rule is that she doesn't want to talk about anything we do with other people, and she doesn't want to have random people approach her about what I've been doing while we're apart. It makes things a little extra difficult to avoid that risk completely, especially since we're based in a medium-populated area with a high risk of someone who knows us stumbling over my profile on a dating app. Hence why tinder and the like is out of the question.
I talked with my best friend about parts of this a few months ago, and on their side they did something similar. Their girlfriend has a much higher sex drive than them, so they tried an open relationship for a little while. For various reasons she couldn't go through with much through apps either, and she is still to an extent unsatisfied with regards to frequency.
I mentioned to my friend that while their girlfriend and I probably could fulfill eachother physically, it was probably a little too risky. My friend agreed, and neither of us have brought it up since.
I don't want to risk harming their relationship or my relationship with my best friend at all. So I don't want to pursue this. At the same time it also sounds like a really, really good match, and to my knowledge she has no knowledge about the possibility. I don't want to accidentally push my friend into accepting something they're not comfortable with, but does that make it fair to not have involved the girlfriend in the discussion? My friend is forgetful, and I wouldn't be surprised if they simply hadn't thought of bringing it up with her
As the title says I'm mostly looking for assurance that I'm right in not exploring this further. But don't let that stop you from being honest
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