It's funny, whenever I post in this sub, it usually gets used against me in arguments elsewhere, so here's a little fuel for the fire.

Very long story short, my wife of 20 years and I recently separated. We had horribly mismatched libidos and after trying out ENM as a last ditch attempt (and I do mean that, we tried everything), it just didn't work and we called it quits.

Here's the problem. During our ENM exploration, I met someone that I really click with, and we've remained together, throughout the divorce. Outwardly, this looks very strange to my friends, who we've been rather private with, regarding our separation.

The other day I noticed that some people in my friend group wouldn't respond to me, and so I asked one of my other friends about it. He decided to "rip off the band aid" by letting me know that everyone thinks I just gave up on my wife for sex and that to point, I've taken things to the extreme by being involved in threesomes or other group sex, and I've given them "the ick."

My immediate response was "fuck all of you, for not reaching out, asking for more details, and minding your own business," but I do like to try to be objective about things, so I'm asking here, how do you all deal with judgement from friends or family? I don't feel any shame or embarrassment for the way I live my life, but maybe I'm not looking at this correctly?

Thoughts?