Hey everybody. I’m hoping to get some advice for my current situation. I will try to explain as briefly as possible.

I (M27) am dating (M23) someone in a long distance relationship and we recently moved in temporarily for the summer while he’s on summer break from uni. We have dates for 6 months and both agree that we want to be in an open relationship, but there appears to be different styles between us.

For me I am not often thinking about anyone besides my partner. I will message others in a semi-sexual tone but it’s nothing I go out of my way for. Same with sex. I visited some friends for the weekend and we hooked up but I didn’t think about it before it happened or even tried to plan it. It was very casual. Afterwards I spent the rest of the weekend just relaxing as normal.

My partner is the opposite. He is constantly looking for guys online to flirt with and try to coordinate things with. He also does a lot of ERP (erotic role play) with others. This often comes in the way of time I’d like to spend with him, like us watching a movie at the house together. I picked him up from the airport one time and he spent it info-dumping about this person he wanted to invite to our hotel room. I will ask my partner and he will say he’s not sexually satisfied by me. But I wish he gave me more attention.

Would you say that one of us is in the wrong or is this a case where we both hold fault? I’m genuinely interested as I really love my partner and want to continue to be with him.