I (29F) am really feeling a bit lost in the dating world as an ENM woman so I thought I'd come here for some advice!

I had a previous relationship that ended about a year and a half ago, in which I was introduced to ENM and I found that I really resonated with the idea. At the time it was mostly swinging and we had various threesomes and attended parties and things with very little issues with jealousy etc.

Unfortunately I found myself wanting to climb the relationship ladder with this person, but for various personal reasons he did not. This obviously was a bit upsetting at the time, but since we have stepped things down to FWB and this has actually worked well. We still see each other and enjoy the others company but there is less pressure on meeting each others needs and we are both supportive when the other has dainh opportunities.

My problem is that I still really want to find someone to do the traditionalally "mono" things with and have a nesting partner to share my life with. However, dating apps so far have not been great. I'm been on a few dates and men on feeld either already have a primary partner, or only want something casual. I have also used hinge and again I find it hard to find someone who wants both a serious relationship but is also open to ENM and kink (which I also enjoy).

Any advice on how to find the illusive ENM, kinky, committed man?

I'm in the UK, if that makes any difference