Hoping to hear from anyone who began in a DADT arrangement with their partner but transitioned into something more open and transparent.

The situation: My longtime partner and I have gradually opened our relationship over the course of the last year. Months of discussion to Only Out of Town Partners to now DADT.

While things are open on both sides, they have low sex drive and are uninterested in dating at this time (or for the foreseeable future).

I'm grateful for the opportunity but have the usual DADT issues - it feels like cheating, etc. I've brought this up but she very fairly says this is a difficult process and she wants to go slowly. Totally fair.

My concern is that the way this will come to a head is I will inevitably be caught in a "lie" about where I am and who I'm with, or a friend of ours will see me out, etc.

Any advice or personal stories from anyone who has been here but managed to transition into a more open form of non monogamy would be appreciated.