This is me feeling a bit sad. And I suppose looking for some reassurance that things will get better.

I left my husband a few weeks ago after struggling with non-monogamy for a year. I was very comfortable with being open, but he wasn't (a quick read of my historic posts should explain the extent). Eventually we realised our differences were too great and we split. We both had long-term secondary partners, and mine is now my primary. It was a no-brainer for me as our bond is so strong.

However, something interesting has happened that I didn't expect. A lot of insecurities I'd managed to move past with my ex husband have sprung back into life. It's like I'm starting from scratch all over again. I'm constantly worried I'm going to find something out about my primary that means he's not for me (despite us dating for 6 months already). I was feeling secure up until we became primary but all of a sudden I don't. Like my walls have come up.

Grieving a past relationship and the security of it whilst falling in love with someone new/adapting to who they are and a new normal is new for me and I'm finding it really hard. I'd just really like to know if anyone else has experienced this and whether you have any tips to help. As it stands, I'm scared I'll end up pushing him away somehow. It's making me so sad!