Hi everyone,

I am hoping for advice on how to deal with the fact that my partner prefers a different body type.

I am thin, and for someone of my size my breasts are pretty big, but not huge. Objectively I know I have a beautiful body, but I look very different from the type of women my boyfriend usually goes for.

We engage in swinging, and the body types have been more varied there, but when he has one night stands with someone solo it’s always with someone who has huge boobs. It’s become clear to me that this is the primary reason he wants an open relationship (specifically so he can do a particular sex act that is only possible with very large breasts).

This causes me a lot of jealousy and feelings of inferiority.

Our sex life is very good, kinky and satisfying. He describes it often as “the best he’s ever had” and “a spiritual experience”. He’s never been in love before me so the sex that we have is very special to him (and to me as well). Before meeting me he only had FWBs and brief sexual relationships/ONSs.

I know that I offer him something sexually that no one else can. Still, it bothers me A LOT that these women can also offer him something I physically cannot.

He always tells me how beautiful and perfect I am, but when pressed he has kind of admitted that if I had these types of breasts maybe he might not be as attached to having an open relationship (beyond swinging). He’s always avoided saying this directly, but I know he is just trying not to hurt me.

He insists he would not want to change me, that I am his dream woman, that he is extremely attracted to me, and that our sex life is perfect. But still, it bothers me to no end that I do not have the physical feature that turns him on the most.

How do I deal with this? Is this something that is possible for me to get over?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you