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Is not even really my partner yet, but we are trwing, having a deep bound and etc. Then i revealed to them a date that im having tonight. I did it wrong? This person is having some hardships right now so it wasn't a bad time to be honest or smh?
Haha. Good point. Id need a newsletter.
Ok. You are just getting to know each other. You don't have to hide anything, but you don't have to report in to this person on anything you do.
Do you send a group text or text each partner individually before each social interaction?
I don't.
Why would I? Especially someone brand new. I dont report in on much. I also don't tell my friends when I have a date or see other friends. I don't tell my partners when I see friends, family or go out with coworkers. Although it often comes up in conversation. Usually after the fact.
I do often discuss my coming weeks plans with my primary partner to decide which nights we will spend together. Mostly so I buy the right amount of groceries. So things come up in conversation
But why immigration set a precedent that you have to report your whereabouts to a partner before thats something you've even discussed and agreed. You can always add agreements and restrictions. Its harder to walk them back. And its easy to make a mistake or end up doing something spontaneous and now someone thinks you've wronged them.
Add on agreements slowly over time as the relationship becomes more serious. And make firm agreements. Not assumptions.
Do you tell someone you've dated for two months about each date you make with someone else?
Haha yeah probably. I'm only in my early 20s so maybe it's my age that I am used to everyone being on their phones and reachable 24/7 🤷♂️
Don't you sleep? Take showers? Go to the gym? Get busy at work? Have job interviews?
It's definitely not healthy, but I'll be very worried if some of my friends don't reply within the day or even hour because that's very out of character for them.
Then it might not be good advice for OP to be honest.
Not answering a phone for a few hours isn't ghosting my friend. Thats just having a life.
You do you. But hopefully this more detailed response helps OP.
Just recently
Like 2 days or 9 months?
This person sounds like someone you are just getting to know very recently?
No. Someone may think something I'm doing in my life is their business, but its not. Not until I agree it is.
Ok. Thats more relevant to OPs situation.
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Incredibly rude comment btw.
Keep in mind its unclear if OP has been on one date with this person or even met them.
Dating someone doesn't automatically give them the right to know anything about you or else you are an asshole. Thats insane.
Ok you just started dating someone. You met on tinder and you've been on a few dates.
They think it is now their business how often you masturbate. Is it?
They think your salary is their business. Is it?
They think its their business what you discuss with your therapist. Is it?
They think its their business everytime you have lunch with a coworker. Is it?