I'm relatively new to the poly community but I've practiced enm for most of my life on and off. One of my best friends for many years (who has openly identified as poly since we met) recently became my partner. Very often, when we go out, they get caught up in conversation with other (flirtay) folks who don't have an interest in me (which is totally cool, though to keep the convo flowing, I am trying to participate in the convo and ask them both good thoughtful questions), and they kind of end up ignoring me for the most part other than a handful of words for like 40 minutes. The flirting with other people doesn't bother me at all, but I get bummed after being functionally excluded for so long when I was pretty stoked to get to spend time together. I'm just wondering if this is a regular thing that it'd be a good idea to start expecting/accepting, or if this is kinda rude and a bummer across the board? Is it just nature and im the weird one? Also we are both autistic and adhd so if you relate or have a partner who does, I'm extra excited to hear your thoughts!