I (F25) love a good threesome, but every time I have been a unicorn for a MF couple, it has ended up bad for me. Sometimes, the sex will be awesome! But immediately following it, I will get ghosted, and I realize all they wanted me for was one time sex, not romance or friendship like they made it seem
Or, they will mislead me to get me to show up to dates. The girl in the couple will say, “I want to date you separate from my boyfriend!”. So I expect to be dating just her. But that doesn’t end up happening at all and it turns out all they actually wanted were threesomes. And there’s excuse after excuse when you try to schedule a date with just her and not him. Ugh. No wonder no one wants to be a unicorn
This is exactly why I’m so hesitant to unicorn for couples. I really value creating a friendship outside of the bedroom, when I find out they just want to fuck me, I lose complete interest. I’m so sorry that you had this experience 😞.
I'm sorry you had bad experiences. I would caution you that having sex doesn't equal future sex, friendship or romance. Sometimes people have sex and don't want to do it again. This happens on all dating.
I have many friends who play with couples. Their approach is to find experienced couples who also swing. They are less likely to have a meltdown post sex and return to monogamy and less likely to try dictate who you can have sex with if it becomes ongoing. Maybe that will work for you.
But the truth is, couples dating as a package deal for romance (or claiming too) are typically the absolute worst people you can encounter.
Or, they will mislead me to get me to show up to dates. The girl in the couple will say, “I want to date you separate from my boyfriend!”.
This is so disgustingly common. You are correct to not put up with this shit.
Genuine question, do you know a lot of women in real life who play with couples? Perhaps this is a hidden world to you? You simply haven't heard these stories 100s of times so it doesn't seem real?
I've never met a woman who seeks couples for threesomes that didn't have multiple horror stories. It seems trivial to you, but why dismiss the lived experiences of so many women?
Its very real and very common. I assure you.
we care for the third to a point we hate calling her our third,
Then don't.
it's way easier to have group sex when other men are involved.
That has not been my experience. 🤣🤣🤣
Partner, friend, woman, threesome partner, threesome friend, girlfriend......
You just did in the comment. Lol.
Sex one time isn't a relationship.
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Not at all. My partner and I enjoy threesomes. I wrote a guide for M/F to help them find threesomes. All my swinger friends enjoy threesomes.
It isn't. It isnt victims mentality. It isnt an online thing. Its real people's real life experiences.
Sharing real life experiences about your life isnt assuming the worst.
Pretending these experiences aren't real or that women don't discuss this all time in real life is delusional and misogynistic.
This stuff happens. Its a common issue for women. Its unrelated to being online.