My (M) partner (F) and I were talking bout opening our relationship. Not today, just some day. We've had loose bpundaries on sexting, I sext less than I used to, she's sexted more recently. I didn't mind, but I started meeting a couple her friends IRL recently and one was clearly emoyionally insecure and struggling with our no sex/romance red line, and compulsively testing the boundaries. In a way I'd feel less insecure if this other person didn't exude such insecurity.

It really highlighted my self-esteem issues. In some ways our currently looseness on sexting has been good. It boosts her confidence and my own as I'm more motivated to look after myself, livw more life, nourish my sex life, do things that make me feel sexy. But here, the trust in someome who I perceived as disrespecting our boundaries really pulled a nerve in me.

What are some things I can physically do to cultivate emotional security and a strong self-esteem. I want to experiment with opening things somewhat and sometime long-term and don't want to set myself up to be needlessly bruised. e.g. I'm aware my partner will receive more than me etc.