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I keep seeing this advice that "don't fuck your friends" in different shapes.
As someone who isn't really demisexual, but definitely thinks friendship makes someone sexier - why? And does the type of friendship matter? Like, where do people draw the line? If I first befriend a swinger and much later have sex with them, is that bad too? Or is this only about really deep friendships, like those formed in childhood?
This seems to me like similar advice like the whole "you can't avoid catching romantic feelings for a long-time fwb", which has been false in my experience. So I would appreciate some explanation.
People often approach fucking their friends in a careless manner that does not take into account that risk that comes with:
- Propositioning them (especially those in a mono relationship)
- Sex going poorly
- Sex ending
It comes with serious risks. I've fucked my friends with varying success. I tread lightly.
And its especially risky to ask a friend in a monogamous relationships for sex.
It doesn't eliminate the risk. But it is less likely to be super offensive to them.
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I think asking someone for sex when they are in a mono relationship causes problems.
I think if one person declines the friendship can be awkward.
If one person ends things before the other wants to end then hard feelings about rejection can cause problems.
Surely none of this is hard to imagine.