We've been off and on involved in ENM in some way shape or form for a long time. Swinging is our forte, but recently my wife expressed interest in opening up our relationship. We live in a small community and she had two quick trips in a week into the city where she had 4-6 hours to spare. So she set up to meet 2 different guys.

The first weekend was good, but not enough actual sex for her. The second weekend (today), she met a guy who looked like his pic but he wasn't nearly as fit as the pics he sent her, his cock wasn't nearly as the pics he sent made it seem and he wasn't nearly as tall as he let on. They ended up having "alright" sex, but now that she's thought about it more and more she seems disgusted in herself for doing it. I talked to her right after and she was fine, just annoyed. She got home and was very frustrated and wasn't into our reclamation sex. Eventually I held her and sang her to sleep. Any advice for either me or her in any respect to any of this is welcome. Just not sure how I help her through it.