Hi, all, It's first poster here!

Recently decided to explore non-monogamy in the form of ethical non-monogamy. It’s been really refreshing! For my entire teen and adult life, I was a serial monogamist. For the past eight or so months, I’ve been exploring the kink scene and five-ish months into exploring, I decided to trial enm, and it was an eye-opener.

I read a post about a couple in their 20s about “friends” abandoning them and judging and all kinds of shitness happening, and honestly, it makes sense that happens with jealousy, and I experienced that when I tried to tell my friends and “associates” that I was exploring it and it was really damn weird, women who have partners that I’ve known for awhile decided to trial it too and I quote “I want to be a hotwife” which to me didn’t sit right so I avoided that because my spidey senses said hell nahhhh

Enough of the ramble. The main thing I’m curious to see is where other Redditors find other non-monogamous people. I’m on Fetlife, Hinge, Tinder and Bumble (if you judge me I will laugh at you silly lil keyboard warriors). All the sites and apps purely so I can find the non-monogamous people. I’m from Melbourne, Aus, which is quite hipstery and by this, I mean some people claim to be “enm” or “poly” as a “hey look at me, I’m “enm or poly”. This definitely isn’t for everyone, but it’s more common than you’d think.

SO, oh my god, I’m sorry that I ramble; where do YOU find non-monogamous people?