I’m feeling very hurt, because my partner of 12 years, (M31) wanted to have a threesome four years ago, and I (F31) was a bit uncomfortable having one but I typically try things out before I decide fully how I feel about them.

We proceeded to have a threesome with my best friend at the time. Though I was only comfortable with my partner having sex with me and engaging in oral sex between the two of them. He ended up not finishing during.

The next situation, he thought it would be better to try it with someone we weren’t familiar with, so we proceeded to have another threesome with a woman we found through an app, and the situation/sex was much better than with the friend but he still didn’t finish.

After those two encounters, I proceeded to tell my partner that personally I wasn’t finding threesomes a lifestyle that I would want and I was just wanting to have sex between the two of us. He agreed to it.

Fast forward, four years later, he tells me that he still has not yet experienced a threesome and it has me baffled. What did we experience then during the time that we tried? Now I feel like it was all for nothing.