Hi all, I recently became "official" (boyfriend- girlfriend) with my partner about 6 months ago. We are both new to poly lifestyle and have only dated others a few times since becoming 'official'.

I have been seeing someone about once a month for almost a year now and had began making plans to see her soon.

My girlfriend has recently been going through a lot with her mental health and even having suicidal thoughts. She explained that she does not feel comfortable with me seeing someone right now due to her mental health. I definitely understand and I told her that I want to make sure she feels safe and her mental health is prioritize.

For some reason I'm having a tough time accepting the fact that I won't be able to see this other individual I had started making plans with and I have no clue when my girlfriend will feel safe to open things up again. I feel like I'm being selfish.

I need some advice from those that have personal experience dealing with similar situations.