We've been married for 10 years. Before we got married we had many conversations about expectations, and we basically agreed to be ENM in theory. There have been a couple of opportunities over the years, but they mostly fizzled out since we've been busy raising a kid, carrying for parents, etc.

Over the last year my wife has started having sexy chats and sharing pics with people online. More recently she's been flirting and getting phone numbers when she's out on the town. She hasn't done anything physical yet, but she probably will soon.

I put together a list of ground-rules or expectations. Most of it is around full transparency, safety, and keeping our relationship primary. I also asked her to tell any partners up-front that she's happily married, that she'll be telling me anything I ask about, and that she might break things off at any point. All my rules are negotiable and may losen over time, but for now I need to go slow and make sure we aren't doing any damage to the amazing thing we've got.

Recently I asked her to break off one of her chat romances because the paramour was married and his wife didn't know. She agreed and told him he had to talk to his wife before she could continue things. We're still waiting to hear how that goes.

Boring details out of the way, I am so unbelievably happy with how this is going so far! I get these little flashes of jealousy when I know she's sexting another man, or when I picture her hooking up, and then I harness it and turn it into this need to one-up her paramours. She told me one of her paramours was good at dirty talk and showed me the chats, so I spent three days writing a smutty novella for her. They send her the occasional dick pic, so I spent an evening taking a series of pics that I knew were better. She'll tell me she's turned on after a chat or video call with another man, and I'll drag her into the bedroom for an hour of wild sex.

Our sex life was always good, never more than a couple weeks without being intimate. These past couple of months we're fucking at least twice a day. We can't keep our hands off each other. Every part of our life together is full of that NRE, and we feel like a couple of teenagers. It's so good.

But we're both really new to this! We're studying up. I'm reading Opening Up and Polysecure. We're both on the subreddits. Some of you are clearly experts at this, so I ask, what should we watch out for as we keep exploring this? Are there any red flags you spot in my post?

Any advice, stories, links, and feedback are appreciated.