I'm in a pretty newly open long term marriage. So far, it's been amazing and attaching with different people has helped me grow beyond some anxious attachment tendencies of my youth.

Enter last week. On a work trip, I had the opportunity for separate dates with two amazing women, one from Chicago and one from New York.

Chicago: Meet for drinks, flirty banter, back to the hotel for great sex, been sharing cute texts since.

New York: Get drinks, hours of really intense conversation (some flirty of course), but night ends a bit awkwardly as we both juggle the will-we-or-won't-we and we each go home alone.

I messaged NY the next day to say how great it was to get to know her, suggested getting together when I'm in NY in a couple months... radio silence.

Realistically, I think these were both potential comets at best and it looks like only one will work out. But NY has really triggered some anxious attachment for me. I can't stop wondering what she is thinking, what I could have done differently and if there's any way I could reconnect.

It seems like a fleeting connection like a comet should be the least likely trigger, but this is hitting me harder than others have. Any advice to help me soothe this anxious mind and stop pining for what could have been?