To give some background, we have been together for over 5 years and have a son together. We have an mostly exclusive relationship. We both keep things open in communication though, usually. We have slept with other people before and talked about it otherwise.

So we're on vacation in Florida, at a hotel with just her and her friend (22f)and me. Immediately,her friend has this energy and demeanor towards me that is obviously flirty and touchy. And this got worse as the vacation progressed, we all drnak togeher and partied and what not, she steadily continued to work on me, groped me a few times but I dismissed it as much as possible, thisboccured right In front of my lover who proceeds to say something along the lines of "oh yeah, I wouldn't be jealous if y'all slept together...?" This seemed like a signal but I still decided to play it safe and cornered my lover with a boundaries convo. we already have boundaries in place and an understanding of each other, I don't seek interaction with people outside our relationship in this manner usually. And not does she. But this got to me somehow. I've never had issues or conflicts from being in mono relationships but this event has forcibly changed my perspective. In our conversation about boundaries regarding her friend, she conveyed that she disnt want me sleepign with her friend. And I dropped it as far as mine and her conversation about it. At first this was totally fine. Just like any other situations we ajd both been in and needed clarity. However it stuck with me. I want to know if my feelings are valid or just chaotic mess because of overthinking.

I want to entertain her friend and spend time with her. I have no desire to hurt my lover though. This would mark the first time I've had a poly problem occur while in a mono situation or semi mono. I want to rbing it back up but I don't wanna be annoyinf and pushy sounding. There is also the fact that her friend might not feel anywhere near the same about this situation as I do. We had Alot of fun on vacation and flirted and played openly as a polycule honestly. I didn't expect to have any lingering feelings about the situation but here we are. I'm not sure if I'm supposed to feel any sorta of way and I'm here to hear anything and everything. Not sure if this open relations territory or polyamory or neither but either way I would love any information. I have more details but I'm rushed now and can't think of them, please ask anything if you feel I was not in depth enough.

Should I restart this conversation with my lover? Should I contact her friend at all? Do I drop it and move on?

TIA 💕