Wife is allowing me to sleep with other women. Basically my wife has a low sex drive and only wants it every few months. After some discussion she agreed to allow me to have an open relationship. Is this a trap? We have been married for 10 years, no infidelity ever, but it seems to easy for this to work. We did not set rules or guidelines except be safe. I encouraged my wife to explore or we can explore other people together! We are new to this and I invited her to sleep with other men or we can have threesomes to see if her sex drive comes back, but my wife isn’t interested in that lifestyle. Anyone have similar situations? Or suggestions?
I strongly suggest reading the book Open Deeply as it might help you two make sure you are on the same page and avoid getting blindsided or communication pitfalls later.
My husband said the same to me a year ago, and while we have had some course corrections, no, it was not a trap. But communication is HUGE
Get a therapist before you embark on this journey. One with experience in kink and ethical non monogamy. They have the experience and insights you don't.
Also has your wife seen a doctor to find out if her hormone levels or medication could be causing the low sex drive? Do that first. Then therapist.
Dating as a married man is very challenging. They are going to almost always want confirmation from your wife. Don't lie either. It's dirty.
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