hi! i posted a day or so ago about me (21F) getting into (something?) w a couple (30F and 37M) (i’ll link the post after) so even tho i’ve been actively talking about couple privilege, my individual relationship w both of them and how i won’t relate to a couple as a whole, etc etc (also following a lot of the advice i saw on the other post). i ended up letting the forum get to me and decided a more agressive approach (asking point blank the hard uncomfy questions and being super direct about the whole unicorn thing) (you guys really got in my head about the unicorn thing :,) ) and idk, i think i might have fucked up guys. the answers he is giving me (my relationship is closer w him bcs we’ve know each other longer, and i also hold him more accountable for my own reasons (will explain if anyone wants/needs me to)) are honestly quite hurt. he seems actually distressed and hurt and like it fucked him up a bit that everything was fine and suddenly it seems like i don’t trust him or them at all :( i don’t know what to do. people are telling me that my gut doesn’t lie (i think it’s weird a 37yr old is interested in me), but i have an inclination to self sabotage, and have a hard time believing good things happen to me. he may be extremely convincing or whatever but idk, it doesn’t sound like he’s lying to me. and in any point did he defend himself or them or wtvr. he is genuinely trying to talk to me and understand me and i just keep pointing out to him everything u guys are telling me. please help. link to the other post: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/OLcs3oX5cm