Hi! I post here because in monogamy I fear about being judged or something. My question is for people who had a good relationship, objectively, but it was monogamous and you decided to let it go, was it good for you in the end? I'm afraid of waiting for it to get better and thus putting in work and stringing along my partner for a relationship dynamic I'll never be fully comfortable with. I can understand he gets insecure and I can see his progress, but I can't stand that while I'm choosing to not engage in any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with anyone but him, my friendships with men (I'm female) still make him go really still and that silent upset mode. I feel like I'm not enough for this by how I perceive stuff, and not by how I actually act on my daily life. I go out of my way to avoid flirty folk, to explain with detail what my outings are so he doesn't get any funny ideas at all, and I daydream that maybe an open relationship or just being single at this point is far better than this tiptoeing around everytime I mention a guy is joining me for a movie or is gonna be present where we're going dancing with my female friends. I don't know what to expect if I leave either, otherwise it is a good relationship, we meet in the middle for sex, tidying up, whatever. But if I'm gone it's 4 years I have to let go, and a promise to "work on us instead of running away yeah?"