Hellllp. Also kind of venting.

I have a new boyfriend who is a "primary partner." He went away for an extended work trip. I hooked up with 5 people and he didn't hook up with anyone. Before he left, we discussed and my behavior was in line with what we agreed to. Now that he is back, he clearly is not okay with my sleeping around but also denies it is a problem.

Moreover, it seems like he is trying to catch up by fucking a bunch of people and sort of rubbing my nose in it to make me jealous. I have pointed out that it seems like we are starting some kind of slutty arms race, which he would lose because I am way sluttier than him.

The problem seems to be that he wants a free license to do whatever he wants while also having me naturally be completely monogamous with him. Also, it seems like he wants this without asking for it, like he just wants me to know what he wants.

He is clearly pissed off at me and is likely going to fuck someone else tonight. Not really sure what to do here.