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Will my feelings when my partner goes out get better?
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We opened up about 3 months ago. My partner has been on about a dozen meet and greets or full on dates since we started. I'm still struggling quite a bit when she goes out. She had a coffee meet and greet this morning and then another FWB date this evening. When we wake up we usually will cuddle for a while when if have time but I found myself not wanting her to be close to me. Then later I snapped at her a couple times about little things I normally wouldn't even comment on, and then kind of broke down a bit when she was leaving. I apologized for the snapping BTW. When I'm like this it kind of puts a dark cloud on her dates. I really try to keep a poker face but it's hit and miss. We try to own our feelings and process through them not expecting the other person to "fix it" for us.

For those who've opened up, did it get better over time? I'm sure for many it has, I think I'm just in an emotional place right now and need some re-assurance. Also, any techniques for dealing? I do some mindfulness, self-talk and self-soothing but this is still a work in process.

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Perhaps express to your partner that you would like some dedicated one on one just you time. My husband had some rough patches when I started dating but once I started taking HIM on more dates, spending dedicated time with him, going on walks or even other mundane activities things have really gotten better. Possibly even better than they were before I started opening up again.

Hope that helps!

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