Disclaimer: Okay, go easy on me. I rarely do social, I’m new to Reddit, and my first post (different sub) was not received well. Lots of assumptions and false accusations. Please ask questions rather than jumping to conclusions.

I (41M) am married. I love my wife (34F). I do not want our relationship to end. We’ve been together for 16 years and have kids. She is the love of my life.

My wife had a rough childhood. I don’t want to get into details, but it included lots of abuse and trauma. As a result she really struggles with sexual intimacy and vulnerability. Years of repressing her sexuality have all but killed her sex drive. She also takes antidepressants, which further suppress her libido. We’ve struggled with an off-and-on dead bedroom most of our relationship. After begging her, she more recently started working on sex related issues in therapy. Previously she avoided the topic because it’s so painful for her. “Progress” (if there’s any) has been glacier slow. Honestly, idk how much will ever change. She’s not hopeful anything will change.

A couple years ago she told me she is bi-curious. All of her issues around sex have prevented her from taking action despite my support, but this began our conversations around ENM. She has more recently started encouraging me to seek sex outside of our marriage because she knows I want far more sex than she wants. She also thinks it’s hot and feels that it might help re-kickstart her desire a bit. Even if it doesn’t, she wants my needs to be met.

I love my wife. I also don’t want to sacrifice my sex life for my entire one-and-only life. She supports me having a FWB, ONS, etc. I haven’t dated in 16 years. I don’t know how to find someone that would be open to our situation. On top of that, we just moved cross country to Orlando Florida. I have no friend network at all. Zero. Any advice?