Found out tonight that my husbands FWB is looking for a dom/sub connection. Wasn’t something that was discussed prior, mainly he wanted to explore another connection with someone and have a FWB. He hasn’t had much lucky but recently has connected with someone, they haven’t yet had a sleepover.

Myself and my husband have always had the daddy/sub names for each other and I find it quite personal. I’m owned by him, married to him.

I found out tonight she’s been calling him daddy and he’s been calling her baby girl. I feel crushed I told him it’s a boundary that’s been crossed. He said it’s just a word but to me it’s not just a word, those are personal names for ourselves and our dynamic. He then said it’s just a persona thing? he will mention to her that he will tell her to change the names but I’m already hurt at there not being communication about this. I’m not a second, I’m the primary and it’s made me feel like absolute sh!t.

Any advice on how to deal with the anxiety that’s come with this? Am I overreacting