My partner and I have recently opened up our relationship. I have always struggled with him seeing other people and working through my feelings. Recently we changed our rules, we stopped sharing details of our dates (apart from the fact that we were going on one, the extent of where the sex went and whether the experience was good). This has helped me quite a bit and I am able to understand that his actions in dates are not really about me or our relationship and that I do want him to have a good time.

I have no issues seeing people on my end and enjoy it. I want to be able to be 100% supportive to my partner but he recently had a really good experience and I can’t help but feel sad and distant from him. When he sees people, I don’t feel as special, I have insecurities about our relationship not being enough, of me not being enough. I start going down spirals of how this is the beginning of the end of our relationship.

How do I do better for my partner? I want to make this work since being open is really good for me. I know how much I have appreciated his support and enthusiasm when I have a good time and would love to do the same for him.