A bit of background: I've been dating Paula since Feburary whom I met on a dating app. When I met her she was in an open relationship with Dan, whom she's been with for over a decade. I was quite hesitant and unsure as I've been monogamous up until then. With some encouragement from my BFF and a post on this subreddit I decided to go for it. We hit it off instantly and started seeing eachother regularly. Dan was happy about this as she has had a lot of trouble meeting somebody decent.

I started to develop some real feelings for Paula and (again, with some encouragement from this subreddit) I told her knowing that there was a possibility that it could end our arrangement, but I decided that I would probably regret never telling her if I didn't get a chance to. To my surprise she reciprocated. After some discussion with Dan she decided to become poly so she could be with both us, Dan did support this.

Paula brought up the idea of Dan and I meeting (which, again, I posted about here and got some great advice). Everything I've heard about him was very positive, not just from Paula but from the friends I met. From what I was tols Dan was very excited to meet me. I was very nervous and did not hide it. I did suffer a depressive episode last week (nothing to do with this) and almost canceled but my BFF talked me out of it.

We met up in a sports bar, Dan and I got along right away. We talked about work, life, dating and shared interests (which we had a lot of). We both took a few lighthearted jabs at Paula for having an exact type. He was very friendly and personable. I was worried that I would feel uncomfortable or like a third wheel, but I wasn't. At the end of our encounter Dan told me that he didn't need to meet to feel comfortable with me dating Paula, because of everything he's heard about me, but he feels even more comfortable now.

The three of us plan to get together sometime in the near future again. Paula and I have a weekend vacation planned for next month (another first).

I truly want to thank everybody on this sub who has helped me navigate this very new situation to me. I'm happier than I have been in a long time and don't know if I would be here without the guidance and advice I've got here!