This question is especially relevant for those practicing hierarchical poly. While "dirty talking," have any of you had a play partner say things like "Do I **** you better than <your primary partner>?" during sex/sexual activities? Have you said it yourself?

Or if you haven't experienced it, what do you feel about it? Is it a healthy thing to say, in your opinion? If you wouldn't like to hear something like that about your primary partner but your play says it in the heat of the moment, how would you deal with it? How would you feel if your meta says that about you? Or do you have rules beforehand regarding what/what not to say?

"Cheating" porn depicts questions like this in a very "sexy" light, but I was wondering about the real-life ethicality of it among people who have sex with multiple partners and everyone knows about everybody. Thanks in advance for responses!