I think a lot of the posts on this sub display the difficult parts of nonmonogamy. And I’ve been there before so I’m not judging anyone. But I just had a moment where I was thinking about all the things I love about it. I’d love to hear what other people like about it too. I’ll give a few of my favorite parts.

1. I love that my boyfriend and I can sort of “ogle” at people together. We can see a beautiful woman walking down the street and go, “isn’t she gorgeous?” without any jealousy.

2. We can give each other dating advice. We were friends long before we dated and have been nonmonogamous from the start, so giving each other dating advice was already a part of our dynamic. I love that he can see me get flustered when I start developing a crush on someone and he can push me to go for it or help me work through a hard moment with my partners and vice versa.

3. I like that nonmonogamy has pushed me to be comfortable in myself and trusting in my relationship in a way I haven’t been able to before. Having someone who you trust to go out and date other people AND still be totally in love with you at the end of the day does wonders for self esteem and overall trust in the relationship.