hey friends- I (M 30) am currently in a relationship with another F (28) and her bf (27) and the female wants to get pregnant. We all want to be parents and are excited for this next big step. This has been a stable relationship that has been very sexually charged, positive, and just fun for everyone.
the bf is now getting cold feet as we come up to her ovulation. hes saying he wants me to get a sperm test first because he thinks hes at a major disadvantage due to my larger testicles and size of my ejaculate. Genital size hasnt really been an issue until now. Any ideas folks have in how to manage this dynamic? My position is we dont move forward until he is fully comfortable, obviously, but that we should let nature do its thing. Full disclosure, i have 2 kids from another past relationship and i know those pregnacies happened in one go, so maybe thats feeding his anxiety? thanks!
Hey OP... I'm going to say up front that my primary concern is the future child, not the three of y'all.
If this is something y'all want to pursue, you collectively need to do more work before you pull the trigger.
His anxiety about competing with you suggests that he's not at all ready for this, even if the other two of you are.
Even if it is fair, is he going to be okay if it's not his child? I'm sure he says yes, but if that's true, why does it need to be a "fair" competition?
If he was truly okay with any outcome, then it shouldn't matter who "wins", right?
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We had a woman post just last week about her husband being suddenly not okay with her being pregnant by the bf, and it had already happened.
People often change their minds when shit gets real and it's now real life and not just a hot hypothetical.
Please don't bring a child into this world until you are certain of where everyone stands.
Highly recommend counseling.
Jesus H., this is the dumbest thing I'm going to read today, no doubt 🙄
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Yeah...we had a post last week about the husband no longer wanting the wife to carry the bf's child to term.
These situations are so fraught with danger already, now they're making it a competition?
I won't kink shame, but I will say not to do this to the child.